A basic, necessary and essential ingredient of keeping a relationship going is emotional. This means having and expressing emotions. This means being aware of them yourself as well as sharing them with your partner. It means being conscious about what is happening emotionally at the moment not only as it happens but also when reflecting on situations afterwards. It is having the emotions, recognizing what is going on and sharing them. That is all part of communicating where you and your partner are at in your relationship.
The question that often arises for couples is how to share emotions, what emotions to share and when to do so. Often people fear their emotions and worry that expression of them will ruin things. On the contrary, it is the repression of emotions that can be ruinous.
An easy way to address how to handle emotional expression is to set up a regular time each week to check in with each other. Make the topic emotions. Share what you were feeling that day, that hour, that week. Share what you feel about your partner and how you think things are going. Share the easy feelings and those that are more complex and difficult. This is a time when partners set aside the routines and duties of life that can get in the way and take up time. They can be ways we defend against getting closer by being busy with everything but having time with each other.
The point is to share what is going on inside of you. Share a dream. Share a reaction. Share a thought. Share. And be open. It does not work to share from an ego position or to show how insightful and bright you are. Share to relate and to engage with your partner emotionally.
Without telling you what to do, we can say that one of the most intimate things a couple can do is engage in this way. It can gradually lead you both to open to the deepest recesses of your soul. This sharing is moving closer into an embrace of emotion and brings people into a level of honesty that can be quite remarkable. So it is not only the content of what you share but also that you both value this or learn to value it and do it regularly. Love becomes enhanced, interactions become richer, life is more intimate and the rewards are outstanding. Try it for yourselves and see.